Looks like we might give up the RV Lifestyle (gasp!)

Sounds like you are undecided and definitely frustrated in several ways. I travel with a dog and I'm an explorer like you as well as an outdoor cyclist so I'm gone for 4-5 hours easily every morning. However, I'm never gone more than 5 hours because of my dog. Easy adjustment. I store my pusher 40 miles from my house so to get to it requires at least one hour of Los Angeles freeway driving. Departure and returning days are a little stressful but again, love the lifestyle. Good luck.