Minimalist married to clutter bug.

I also agree it isn't always the female partner who loads more of their stuff...guys can have a field day over loading too!

It's a matter of organization and avoiding the clutter. If the stuff has a cabinet, drawer, etc. it can come along as long as we're not busting at the seams and there's nothing laying around to trip over or to take up precious counter space.

We "try" this agreement - DH is responsible for everything outside the 5er (storage, etc) and I'll take care of the inside. Other than the clothes and his dop kit, that is. It works most of the time....when he grumbles, I just act like I didn't hear him, if he repeats it - a look usually stops that conversation, LOL.
Last trip out, he asked me why more of my stuff is getting put in the storage compartments, I replied it was outside stuff!
Good thing we really like each other......

Forgot to add: We usually load up at the start of the season. This is alot easier for us. Clothes, canned goods, etc. and tote out anything stored in the house that would not have made it through the freezing weather in the 5er (plastics, liquids, cleaners, etc.) Then, when we are ready to leave, we add the fresh food, coolers, etc. Coming home, unload the laundry, leftover fresh food to use in the house and we are done.
Laundry finished, we take it back to the 5er.
Yes, I admit, I am the clutter bug but I have gotten better over the years.

DP

My wife and two of our kids, plus me, makes 4. We have found that if we load the cabinets with drinking cups, there will be a dozen laying around by noon. Pack too many plates and the sink fills up rather than washing them right away. For a basic weekend trip, one shirt, pair of shorts and socks per day works for me. For my wife and packing for the kids, not so much. I live with hauling bags of dirty clothes back into the house because her rule has become, plenty of clothes and plenty of blankets; everything else she cuts back on. Works for me.
Longer trips just require better planning.

2oldman wrote:

toedtoes wrote:
So it's not always the "dear wife" that has to bring everything plus, and it's not always the "dear husband" who is the minimalist.

True.

TV ads often portray the husband as a hapless, messy, unorganized cretin who won't pick up his dirty socks. I'd go out on a limb and say that stereotype only works about 50% of the time.

You'd be right- the other 50% of the time, he won't pick up his dirty underwear either! :B

My wife wants to know who's doing the packing?

toedtoes wrote:
So it's not always the "dear wife" that has to bring everything plus, and it's not always the "dear husband" who is the minimalist.

True.

TV ads often portray the husband as a hapless, messy, unorganized cretin who won't pick up his dirty socks. I'd go out on a limb and say that stereotype only works about 50% of the time.

sowego wrote:
I have no clue why many other gals do just the opposite. The point all "those" gals need to understand...how much more fuel it costs to carry it all over the country, how frustrating it is to dig like a gopher to find and put things away, how dangerous it is to have so many loose items out on the counter going down the road/keeping all the cabinets and lower bays too full, and how much misery she may be putting herself & her family through. Why are they afraid simplify? I reckon it has something to do with the female nurturing/nesting/need to be prepared/take care of people deal...sad because it can all be done so much easier with more refreshing results...less is truly more!

But you guys sure are kind to let your dear ladies do what they want. Thankfully my dear one and I see a fully loaded coach as an overloaded disaster in the making. Happy safe travels no matter how you manage to do it!

I was at a brand-specific rally recently. My neighbor had the same size and floorplan RV. My neighbor, a man, came over to see my interior. He was amazed that I had "so much room" in mine. Then we went to his. Every single nook and cranny was filled with not only "I might need it", but "someone else in the campground might need it".

We had a good laugh and I told him he could keep the "I might need it" items, but to do away with the "someone else might need it" items.

So it's not always the "dear wife" that has to bring everything plus, and it's not always the "dear husband" who is the minimalist.

My problem was solved by her buying her own RV. It's a rolling hoard that I feel uncomfortable in.

It might good to consult a therapist. I'm not kidding.. things like this can come to blows if not dealt with in a rational manner. As with most disagreements, compromise is usually the way to go.