No Privacy?

This country is so uptight. I've been in many public restrooms where a woman will mistakenly walk in. She turns red, giggles and walks out when she realizes what she has done. The men usually just laugh too, no big deal, including those standing at the urinals "exposed". Reverse that scenario (man in woman's restroom) and the cops would be there and people would be hopping mad. Mistakes happen. I'm not saying this is comparable to what happened in this thread, but still, I think everyone is way too uptight about things. My wife takes our small boys in to the bathroom at times in order to keep her eyes on them if she doens't feel good about the place.

While I was in Thailand, the cleaning ladies would just walk in at random times to sweep or clean without any notification or knocks. There were no stall doors or anything. They didn't care who was doing what in there. Awkward, yes, but not the end of the world. Totally normal to them.

Now I'm not saying that having a 12 year old in a women's restroom is right, but not the end of the world by any means.

blangen wrote:
Aside from all the other good points previously made, I can't see how bringing a "challenged" twelve year old boy into a female shower area where he will witness shocked (among other) reactions... is a good thing for his mental development going forward. He may get physically clean but he may well also become mentally scarred for the future.

Great point. Most of the people I see in campgrounds, I would hate to see naked. Myself included.

But on a more serious note...Maybe she should have just taken him to the outside shower on the side of the RV. He could get his shower there. Isn't that what those things are for? Oh wait...maybe that wasn't such seriousness, after all.

In response to the question, "Is this more common?", Yes, I think it is. We don't know the circumstances in this particular instance but the presence of pre-teen boys in women's restrooms and showers has definitely increased. It happened to me twice on our recent trip and a number of times over the past few years. The answer of course, is family showers or individual restrooms but not every campground can make this change right away. My boys would have been absolutely mortified to be in the women's restroom. Everybody would have been forewarned because they would have been kicking and screaming. lizzie

Exactly why I love my TC shower.

hershey wrote:
Seems to me the obvious would have been to confront the mother and tell her that bringing a 12 year old boy into a women's bathroom or restroom is completely out of line. We can all guess at the number of reasons to do so, but the bottom line is, none of the excuses are good enough to bring a 12 year old boy into a ladys bathhouse. Period.

Didn't want to confront anyone when I'm naked and wet.

I also wasn't able to chase her out and see what RV she was from.

My cousin has a special needs twelve year old, and let me tell you he has the strength of a large buff man! He nearly took my trailered 23 ft boat off its chocks (whatever you call it when you put the front of the boat trailer on the donught on the ground).

I would venture to say that it is never appropriate to bring a special needs boy in a ladies' shower when there are ladies in there. Like others have mentioned, assuming this boy is special needs, in the very least the mother could have 1) waited until she knew the showers were empty 2) asked CG manager for blocked off time 3)showered him using the trailer shower 4) used the hose attachment and showered him outside of trailer with his swim shorts on.

Go Dogs wrote:
Just because he didn't appear to have a disability, doesn't mean he did not. Also, maybe his mother saw someone, 'shady' in the men's bathroom, and didn't trust the boy to go alone. Personally, I may have been upset if I was waiting to use the shower, and you were dying your hair!

She didn't say she was drying her hair. She said "As I was drying off".

IMHO the minute that a 12 year old boy was spotted in the women's shower 911 should have been called and told that there was a young man in the showers and let them sort it out.

I like the seperate rooms with showers and a locking door also. It feels more secure.

Raymon wrote:

Go Dogs wrote:
Just because he didn't appear to have a disability, doesn't mean he did not. Also, maybe his mother saw someone, 'shady' in the men's bathroom, and didn't trust the boy to go alone. Personally, I may have been upset if I was waiting to use the shower, and you were dying your hair!

She didn't say she was drying her hair. She said "As I was drying off".

Please reread the OP, she was doing her highlights.