Quit Camping???

For some it is part of aging...nothing new is comforting. Others, like my mother planning another trip at 93 before she passed, are just curious to see new places. Don’t stay home...go alone.

I am still a firm believer that marriage is a lifetime commitment between a husband and wife. And life is full of changes and compromises with bumps along the way. 44 years married, and still counting.

After many, many years of camping and traveling adventures, it appears "TEO" has hit a time in life for a major adjustment that only he and his wife can work out.

Tough spot to be in TEO. I sounds like your traveling days are coming to an end unless you want to go by yourself. The trips you went on were really long distant trips....maybe you need to go on some shorter trips and only be gone for a day or so. Maybe she just doesn't like the long haul road trips that take weeks of being on the road in a motorhome. My wife doesn't really like road trips either and would rather be home. She feels content and happy at home and being away takes her out of her comfort zone. For her, the best part of a trip is getting home.
I feel your pain...

My usually adventuresome DH decided after 1 winter in the southwest he never wanted to snowbird again. Then it became harder and harder to get him to go on local trips. It is now apparent he is in the early stages of dementia. He can manage his life in familiar surroundings but gets terribly confused otherwise. I am still healthy and would love to be traveling at least half time but I won't put him through it. There may be something going on with your wife that is not readily apparent.

My wife didn't want to travel so my kids said I should get a new wife. It has been working good now for 32 years. There is always hope.

Sounds like no answer to that problem. My DH did not like to travel, but once we got away, he was mostly fine. Hard on both of us. She wants to stay home, you want to go, but not leave family behind. As someone said to me... "if you go, he will be p*****, but if you stay home, you will be p*****."

Maybe something way smaller and shorter trips for you without the family?
She has a reason she is not wanting to go, do you really know what it is?

Good Luck.

I feel your pain! We have same dilemma here. I want to go out west and see our beautiful country. Hubby wants to fly out and rent a car to sight see. Our (his) son lives in San Diego. I am so claustrophobic that I don't want to fly. There is a 11 year difference in our age so that might be part of it but DH worries about EVERYTHING. I just turned 62 in May and I am so ready to go. I say that is why we have insurance for everything. Do I want to pressure him to go and he be miserable, no. I jokingly tell him guess I will go with next husband. Lol...So for now we go from Fl to the south east US. I did get him to go to Maine and Niagra Falls once. I guess you might need to try shorter trips. As kerrlakeRoo said if your heart isn't in it, neither will be happy. Totally agree on that statement, so it is what it is. Good luck!

Time to move on. Buy her a two kindles and pick a new hobby for yourself. One kindle is being charged, other kindle she is reading. To keep blood pressure down, find a hobby away from her. Some hobby that you don't have to look at her read all day. Your RV is now good for a spare bedroom and making coffee for your "get away space". Put all your pic's in a slide show and play on your computer when you can't stand it anymore. Have her join a "reading club" so she can talk for hours about books that she has read with her other members in her"reading club".

Is the change of heart related to a change in your lives? Health concerns, new grandkids, a lot of things could be swaying her feelings, See if there is something that can make it work for both of you, because if you both dont have your hearts in it, neither will be happy.
Good luck,