Sorry for just now responding. Took the RV in today. They said 2 to 4 weeks because they have 90 units in for service. I'll post when I hear from them.
1. While at the dealer I checked the same brand RV's they had. None were below 4" and some were 6" spacing.
2. The majority of the weight as I can see is on the driver side. That's where the kitchen is. The passenger side just has 2 recliners and the dining room table with 4 chairs.
3. As far as any suspension parts being worn out, the first blow-out happened in about 1 year.
4. The tire size of the "F" rated tires is the same as the original. The sidewall height is 80. I had wanted "H" rated tires but after putting one on there was less clearance. The "H" had a sidewall height of 85. If they had put the second "H" tire on that would have been another problem. With the original size (80) there is only 2" clearance between the tires.
5. I typically run about 65mph. The "E" tire were reted at 65mph. The "F" tires are rated at 75mph. So at least I have a 10mph buffer and weight buffer.
Hope that answers the questions/suggestions for now. One somewhat embarrassing issue. I have some pictures I could post if I could figure out how to post them. Any help?
Thanks for all the help so far. I'll keep posting as I have more info.