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loulou57
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Jun 05, 2014

Travelling companion

Our dear friend (We will call her Ann) lost her hubby over 5 years ago. Ann has been ready for a while now to move forward and do something her husband never wanted to do....travel across Canada.
One problem...she does not want to do it alone. Ann is not looking for someone to travel with her. For company as well as being a man able to do and teach her the knowledge etc. Ann is not looking for anything more than a male traveling companion. Money is not an issue either. She is willing to cover all costs but is not wanting someone who is in it for the free ride.
We have offered to take her but she said she would feel uncomfortable rather like the odd one out. The big question is....how does she go about finding someone? Looking on a " singles" site is not what she is looking for.
Any information on how we can help her reach her dream would be appreciated. It is not something easy to accomplish.
  • Tell her to get a small class c and then you both take a few trips. Then she can go a few times by herself. To find a companion she needs to look for one that matches not just an RV buddy.
  • Thanks everyone.....Ann is coming over for dinner with hubby and I this weekend to discuss this more. We will tell her about the sites you have mentioned. I will suggest she read your comments
  • here is a website for her.

    https://www.google.com/search?sourceid=navclient&ie=UTF-8&rlz=1T4GGNI_enUS555US555&q=RV+groups&gws_rd=ssl

    my wife already has the RV she wants when I'm dead and gone. Oh well.
  • Ann, do it on your own. You will meet the nicest people everywhere you go. You can do it!
  • We have had many conversations with her about the dangers of such as trip. We are worried for her. She seems to think that there must be others out there, honest genuine people who are looking for company like she is. I have known her for years and we both tend to be "too trusting of people" as my hubby puts it.
    My husband has suggested a conversion van where she would not be hauling something. Something easier, so she could go alone. Ann insists it is the company she needs.
    Ann put an add on one of those sites where you can advertise anything from real estate to garden veggies. I knew her password sand removed it. She was angry at first but got over it. I said that it was definitely the wrong way to go.
    I think she feels that the perfectly honest gentleman will appear that is looking for the same thing. We have discreetly put the info out at church to our minister to see if he knows of someone in the congregation looking for the same thing. Sadly though, that may not be safe either.
    Ann is my age 57 and I tell her she has lots of time (hopefully) to fulfill her dream of touring the country. I can understand how she does not want to be alone. I wish she would find someone with the same interests and settle down. I am so desperate to help her do this in a safe way that I suggested she actually go and join some clubs where she could meet someone and get to know him before even mentioning this trip. She may be right, someone else may just want a friend, company.

    Someone asked these questions..
    ..what is she driving? she will buy a MH
    ..Does she want a stranger to teach her...She feels they could share driving but he would have the RV knowledge.
  • Tell "Ann" to buy a class B or smaller class C and hit the road on her own.

    Join Escapees, I'm pretty sure they have a singles group.

    No way would I share even the largest RV with a stranger.
  • Travel across Canada in what? Should I assume a travel trailer? Are you saying she is going to buy a TV and TT, and then look for someone she does not know to give her on the road training? If some poster replies with I'll do it!, whats the vetting process? She needs to find someone from her social circles - not a total stranger.
  • "Dear Ann,
    I don't know how to help in finding a travel companion.
    While you are trying to figure how to fine someone, please allow me to show you some things I think you will find very interesting".

    Take her and your rig to a large open parking lot and let her drive around and backup. Also show her how to hook up (give her a some good tastes of what is involved in a very good way.

    Give her some things to think about(hopefully good things/ideas).

    I think that's what I would try to do. Also, prepare for "lesson two". Also, invite her to go look at rigs and collect brochures.

    Maybe list pros and cons (as you see them) for each type of rig. Get her mind to thinking.

    Maybe she will get her confidence up enough to buy a rig and you both go on some short trips to learn even more.

    A long trip is a bunch of short trips put together!

    Another thought that I may delay for short time, she and her companion may disagree and split up. She needs to know how to continue on....

    Just my ramblings. Hope this is helpful!!!
    Pat

    Edit: My thoughts are to try to lead her in a direction of independence and avoid all the possible pitfalls of any stranger even if known for a short time.
  • bid_time wrote:
    So let me get this straight, Ann does not want to travel with you because she would feel uncomfortable, but Ann is willing to travel with a total stranger - and pay the full bill besides. And this is Ann's "dream"! Sounds more like a nightmare waiting for a good place to happen.


    Sounds like a nightmare to me also. Why dosen't Ann get herself or rent a small camper and go fulfill her dream
  • So let me get this straight, Ann does not want to travel with you because she would feel uncomfortable, but Ann is willing to travel with a total stranger - and pay the full bill besides. And this is Ann's "dream"! Sounds more like a nightmare waiting for a good place to happen.

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