Unwanted guests, lets hear your story....

Chock Full o' Nuts wrote:

ependydad wrote:

TexasShadow wrote:
well, I think you have to treat this young man like a 10 or 12 year old kid.
when he takes your chair and doesn't give it back, you must tell him that your legs or feet or whatever hurts when you stand too long and he needs to get up and let you sit down again.
when he overstays his welcome, you must simply tell him that it's time for him to leave now... but he can come back tomorrow or day after tomorrow or whatever.
If courteous but direct talk doesn't sink in, you will have to tell his parents.. and after that, the park manager. Y
It isn't fair to you or your friends to be expected to entertain a stranger just because the stranger doesn't understand socially polite rules of behavior.

Nicely stated. It's unfortunate and can be unpleasant to have to be direct and blunt (at least for me, it is), but there are times that it's required.

It doesn't need to be unpleasant. I work with children and adults who have autism. They often struggle with social cues so they don't realize when they're being a pest, I find that if I just tell them directly they do not take offense. They really do want to fit inso they have to be told. People with autism are very attached to "the rules", so being direct with them plays right into their rule-seeking mindset. As long as you don't act to humiliate them, but just speak calmly they probably will just get up and move on. One thing about it--you can't be namby-pamby about it. No dropping hints. You need to just come right out with it.