drsteve wrote:
As others have said, go lower on the hitch and heavier on the tongue.
This! Better to be a tad low up front than high. I told my DW she can load anything she can carry into the trailer as long as it's in front of the axles. I learned the hard way many years ago about tongue weight with my dad's boat. We got the bright idea to move the boat back on the trailer to lighten tongue weight. Those britches never did dry.
On the other hand, feeling a little push from passing trucks or gusty side winds is normal. Once I got used to it, it doesn't bother me anymore. The worst are the box trucks that push and pull at the same time as they pass.