What now??

falconbrother wrote:
I gotta tell you that so far I hate the single life. My wife and I had a good relationship. Adjusting to her being gone, this "new normal" is difficult. We were best friends for the best part of four decades. I know that I must let that go and move forward. But, it's hard to let go of that part of my reality, the plans we had to grow old together.

It has barely been any time at all. Don't rush it. Take it slow. It's not about letting go at this point, it's simply learning how to function on your own. Once you are doing that on a daily basis without having to "think it out", you'll be ready for the next step.

Don't let anyone push you faster than you are comfortable with.

From what I understand, women tend to have much better live alone skills than men.
More hobbies, more friends. The live alone skill is one I do not have, nor one I want to learn. I complement TT on her skill at doing that.

I began dating a few months after my wife passed, found someone, and have been together ever sense.

Although I might have raised some eyebrows, it was a great choice for me. All that wait a year stuff, came out of Victorian England. Much more cultural that anything else.

Not saying my way was right, but it worked for me, and to be truefull I thank god every day for my new love. truth is I suspect I would not done very well alone

I think there is a difference between meeting someone new who "works" and not waiting versus rushing into a relationship because you're scared or intimidated to be alone.

I suspect you would have adjusted had your SO not shown up in your life at that time. But never knock the Cat Gods when they deliver exactly what you need. ;)

P.S. TY

My Mom passed away after a short illness several years ago. Dad was devastated. He and Mom were married for over 50 years and did most everything together, including 20+ years of traveling the country in their 5er. Like you, he was lost without Mom by his side. Eventually, he sought for and found a like-minded widow. They share the love and life they had with their previous spouse with each other and have built a new love and life together. He's even introduced his new love to RVing. Not a day goes by that Dad doesn't miss Mom but he can now live his life with hope and joy. Your path forward and destination may be different but, taking things day by day, I pray you too will find hope and joy in the future while cherishing the love and life you and your wife shared.

We are members of a very tight RV community. So tight that widow(ers) often don't want to miss the major rallies. As a direct result, we have had two singles hook up and they have traveling partners again. One couple each like his/her own coach so much that they kept both and change between as they see fit.

Matt