I'm so sorry for what you're going thru. You're right....that's BS and you and your wife shouldn't have to go thru that. Take her to an ER....they should be able to help her with the immediate problems. And yes, I'd be finding a new doctor. I don't know where you live, but I lived in Salem 10 yrs ago and ended up taking my husband to Providence in Portland. You do NOT need to have a referral from a doctor. They were AWESOME. The doctor in Salem was letting my husband die and denying what his REAL illness was (he claimed just emphysema -- turns out DH had leukemia and congestive heart failure, too)......so DO be an active partner.....and yell your head off. She should NOT have to be in so much misery!