DEF magnets -
I've had to get a magnet for the DEF nozzle very often. Most of the time it has just been around the Southeast, but I know of once or twice West of the Mississippi. Usually when I fill up at the truck island, I have to go in and leave a credit card or preset an amount. I usually go ahead ask then if they have a magnet (don't get it around your credit card!).
If you try the DEF nozzle and it clicks off immediately, it needs a magnet. The magnet is a donut - you just place it around the nozzle and it opens an internal valve in the nozzle. I think this valve is to keep contaminants out of the nozzle and keep air from entering the nozzle. I think the big rigs have them built in the DEF filler pipe because I've never seen one use a magnet. I've also heard it's a safety device to keep someone from putting DEF in a fuel tank by accident.
DEF magnets are $25-$30, I just haven't gotten around to getting one.