Sorry about your back. I was diagnosed with a congenital problem in my back at age 20. Doctor told me no surgery then because I would end up in worse shape and to wait till surgery techniques improved. 46 years later (2 years ago), and many MORE problems, I had surgery. I had tried everything on the books to relieve the pain and problems, but all that didn't work at that point. So I set time out in our fulltiming schedule to have the surgery. Two months later, I was back driving our big rig (I do all the driving, DH navigates). This summer we cleaned out a house where we had stuff stored and I carried boxes, etc., up out of the basement at least 15-20 times a day. Back in great shape now. I decided I didn't want to spend the rest of my life in pain and discomfort and I'm so glad I had the surgery.
Physical therapy worked for some time with me. You might try that.
Dale