If you love the Ody, buy a new one and tow right up to the max with a WDH. I'm serious. The Ody's (not your generation with weak tranny's) are GREAT TV's for towing 3500lbs. That's no joke.
I owned a 2009 for 3 years before buying a 2012 Pilot and towed near max with that also. Believe it or not, the Ody was better towing at max than the Pilot. The long wheel base and super engine/trans combo are no match for 3500lbs of pop-up or small TT. It was the Pilot's tires (same as the Ody's) that showed their weakness (gummy sidewalls) towing at max with a long trailer compared to its short wheelbase. Otherwise, the Pilot was also darn good for those 4-5 trips per year.
In addition, the latest gen Ody's can easily get 30+MPG on the highway all day. The 2009 I had would get 28-29, teasing me trying to hit 30! The Pilot would do 22-23 all day long, all highway.
Think long and hard, and don't let the "need a bigger truck" guys get to you.
