Update: We bought the cirrus 820. It ended up being about the same price as the northstar but was a 3 hour closer drive and had the Alde heat so we gave up on the cassette toilet.
Already I am wondering if I should have held out for a lighter camper, but it drove home ok. We weighed before and after pickup and are 100lbs under the max weight for the rear, but I am definitely going to need to make some suspension upgrades. Now to decide whether it's airbags, timbrens sway bar ect.
We love the interior and have slept in it two nights so far on the weekend.
Back out this weekend so we can try everything out since those two night were literally just crashing, didn't use the shower or stove or fridge even.
Thanks again for all of the advice.