OP wrote:
For the foreseeable future we will tow with a 2014 2x2 5.7 Tundra extended cab. I will beef up my tires on the next replacement. I will add a distribution & sway system. This should take me to 10,200 Tundra tow limit but I plan to keep my weight to a total not to exceed 7,000-8,000 lbs max.
You may need to research your Tundra's capacities a little more than this. For instance, your tongue weight at your max planned weight may exceed your Tundra's specs. Payload needs to be considered as well - do you know about payload and what weights subtract from it? Have you loaded the truck for camping including all the stuff you'll be putting in the bed along with family members and pets and had it weighed at a scale?