Engine/powertrain in any SUV is similar to the same as an equivalent pickup with probably more capability. Choosing a diesel or gas has a
lengthy discussion on its own that proves that there is no best for everyone choice, even if everyone can afford one of each. Power hasn't been a problem towing 7000 pounds for half tons in the last 15 years. Current models do it quicker with more power and better gearing.
Since you have a fairly late model SUV already, I'll assume you do not want something like a Ford Excursion which is the last diesel powered SUV that has more capability than you have now.
I do not understand opening those cans of worms. You know what
your limitation is. Why not focus on what other vehicles meet your needs that offer more capability in the area you need? There are SUVs that offer more payload and receiver capabiility, with comparable power to what you have now available in the 2010+ model years. I'll put the plug in for the 2008-2013 Chevy Suburban 2500 and Yukon XL 2500.