Funny that I am first one to mention scale weights and vehicle recommendations. And "I" am the stupid one? Go with your "Feelings" boys.
Here is deal folks. I currently use a weight distributing hitch. Why? Because that is what the scales and Ford dictate. I have towed thousands of miles with and without a WD hitch, both safely and in full control. You guys who have a "Wonky" feeling may have something wrong, or just "Wonky" feelings. If your "feelings" and "fears" point you in one direction or another, go for it. I go with facts and numbers.
