wing_zealot wrote:
spoon059 wrote:
If we had personal responsibility and blamed the correct people, perhaps we would see less of these events.
Those people more then anyone know they could have done more to protect the life of their child. They will wake up every morning blaming themselves. They will inescapably from time to time simply melt into a pool of tears when they see some little thing that will all of a sudden remind them of the terrible tragedy. They will lay awake night after night for hours on end reliving the tragedy. There is no blame you or me or anyone else can put on them that they haven't already put on themselves. No one should ever have to bury their child; that is the most rottenest feeling in the world - I know first hand. How could you be so cold and uncaring? They don't need you (a police officer no less) blaming them - they can take care of that just fine all by themselves.
You obviously missed my point. I whittled down my quote to the point... Please read the quoted portion of my post that I included in this post...
If we, as a society, allow people to escape blame, then we are telling everyone that they are a victim and didn't do anything wrong. Other people will not take warning to the fatal mistakes that were made and more tragedy will follow.
If we were to blame drunk driving on the alcohol, people would continue to drive drunk because THEY aren't doing anything wrong... its alcohol's fault. On the other hand, if people are held accountable for drunk driving, its the fault of the drunk driver.
Say whatever you want, I see it day in and day out. With no personal responsibility, you get very little change in attitude. Again... horrible tragedy. I cannot imagine the pain of losing a child. I had a friend/co-worker who lost his 8 year old daughter to cancer. I have another co-worker who lost his 2 month old child who never left the hospital. Another young co-worker of mine was killed last December on the job and his parents had to bury him. All tragic, all horrible. I have prayed for the parents to eventually find peace and comfort.
I also pray that this is a wake up call to people who don't think before they act and allow a defenseless child to be placed in harms way because the parents didn't have the sense to avoid dangerous activity. Hopefully the national exposure and the debate about it causes the next parent to think twice before allowing their small child to splash around in alligator habitat during alligator feeding time.
You can be both upset at the parents decision and sympathetic to the end result. Its not cold and uncaring... its quite the opposite. Until you have held a dead child, until you have looked a parent in the eyes and told them that their child is dead, until you have to encounter the brutal hard truth of poor decisions and callousness of human life, you don't know ANYTHING about who I am and how I feel about this topic.
When a child loses a parent, they are an orphan.
When a wife loses a husband, she is a widow.
When a parent loses a child... there is no word.
Step out of your little bubble, read my post again and reconsider what I wrote. I think that you will see quite the opposite of cold and uncaring.
