I haven't had an engine on which I could get a good grip on the filter, since Dad's '67 Falcon (still have it). I almost always tighten with the filter wrench, but I don't get crazy with it either. Been doing it most of 45 years now (never have ever paid to have an oil change) and have NEVER had a leak or a badly stuck filter. ALWAYS lube the gasket, either with oil, or better, with Dow 4 Silicone grease, which is recommended by the aircraft engine manufacturers for spin on filters on small aircraft. I've used the Dow 4 for years.
Charles