Look ahead, not back. Discuss with doctor and hospital social worker, who can work through a large range of assisted care facilities. My mom had kidney failure in her mid eighties and the social worker in Edmonton University hospital got her a place at a government lodge near the dialysis center closest to her home town in the north. She was happy there and made friends. Very modest cost, easily covered by her pensions. After a year a miracle happened and she could live without dialysis so she went home where my dad looked after her for several years until she had a big stroke. It's one thing after another in the nineties. Then she went into government long term care, same cost, and a year later transferred to the new LTC in my town. By that time her mind had gone the way of her body and she thought she was in a boarding school. Died at age 90.
We are now looking after MIL in our home and one of us has to be home with her all the time. We had a year or so where she could get in and out of the RV, which was pretty good. But no more. The motorhome sits idle.
