There are several causes / contributors to sway issues. Trailer sway can be caused by just one, or, a combination of two or more contributors.
1. Not enough tongue weight -- You may have this issue
2. Impropper adjustment of WDH-- We know you have this issue
3. Impropper adjustment of sway control device -- We know you have this issue
3. Unbalanced tire pressures in truck or trailer
4. Soft suspension on tow vehicle -- Not likely with your combo
5. Tire sidewall flex on tow vehicle -- Not likely with your combo
6. Bad roads
7. Wind
8. Hitch ball set too high. Trailer tows nose up
From your description, it sounds like you have a possible issue with item one, and definate issues with items 2 and 3.
You need to get some accurate weights on truck and trailer, and most likely, you'll need to invest in a weight distributing hitch along with some type of sway control.
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