Most vehicles will not let you know when regen is happening. If a light comes on, it is because you are past the normal point for a regen to take place. Lots of short trips or excessive idling can cause this. Sometimes once you get a regen to happen on its own the light will go off or if too severe, it may need software connected to it to get the light off. I have had trucks at my shop that would only run 5 mph because the soot level was so severe. This usually is caused by a bad sensor not letting the regens happen.
Regens will normally happen every 500-1500 miles depending on driving habits. The dpf can have a differential pressure sensor on it that actually determines the soot level or the computer monitors driving conditions and calculates soot level. Each way has good and bad factors. Your coach is doing its regens or you would know it by now. And as stated above, def has nothing to do with regens.