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Recent review of Lazy Days RV Park in Florida has the park getting a 1 out of 10. Reason, the reviewer broke their ankle. Did they break their ankle because the park had carelessly left equipment ...
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Grace, dear...
I have an 11 year old adopted daughter that has never had a hand raised to her. Why, because she doesn't need it. Her personality is such that the thought that she has disappointed either of her parents is enough to send her to tears.
I have two grown sons who were not so motivated and, as boys do, would push the envelope to the point that corporal punishment was in order. Usually the threat was enough but - unlike in your utopia - in order to fully understand the consequences of such punishment it is necessary to have first experienced it. So, on occasion, when I deemed fit they would experience some transient pain in order to address a behavioral issue that was not being rectified in any other way. After a taste or two though the question "would you like me to spank you" generally ended the bad behavior.
Both boys are successful, well balanced, loving fathers.
You can quote all the touchy feely poppycock you like but it doesn't change the fact that in some cases corporal punishment is an effective tool in the parenting toolbox. Look how many "Turn-about Ranches" and bootcamps we have for our unruly children nowadays - things that were unheard of in my youth. It is purely coincidental I'm sure that the decrease in corporal punishment has so mirrored the increase in these institutions.
But you keep petting your unicorns and watching the rainbows while the rest of us provide the future with respectful and caring adults that understand that not all people respond to the same stimuli.
I have an 11 year old adopted daughter that has never had a hand raised to her. Why, because she doesn't need it. Her personality is such that the thought that she has disappointed either of her parents is enough to send her to tears.
I have two grown sons who were not so motivated and, as boys do, would push the envelope to the point that corporal punishment was in order. Usually the threat was enough but - unlike in your utopia - in order to fully understand the consequences of such punishment it is necessary to have first experienced it. So, on occasion, when I deemed fit they would experience some transient pain in order to address a behavioral issue that was not being rectified in any other way. After a taste or two though the question "would you like me to spank you" generally ended the bad behavior.
Both boys are successful, well balanced, loving fathers.
You can quote all the touchy feely poppycock you like but it doesn't change the fact that in some cases corporal punishment is an effective tool in the parenting toolbox. Look how many "Turn-about Ranches" and bootcamps we have for our unruly children nowadays - things that were unheard of in my youth. It is purely coincidental I'm sure that the decrease in corporal punishment has so mirrored the increase in these institutions.
But you keep petting your unicorns and watching the rainbows while the rest of us provide the future with respectful and caring adults that understand that not all people respond to the same stimuli.
