Most of what you are complaining about only happens in July and August. It is the height of fire season, campgrounds are full of families and working people. Every thing is crowded.
I like boat trips during those two months and boondocking, or remote camp sites. I am finding a lot of 1970s vibes out there. Very positive outlook by most people I meet. Your attitude has a lot to do with how others react.
The only places I feel a lot of rules are National Parks and State Parks like California. I rarely go to either of them except once in awhile during the off off season. I do not feel encumbered by a lot of rules.