The perspective is, some here will boast about how many miles they have on their vehicles and indirectly look down their nose at those who aren’t in the quarter million mile club.
There are various reasons for this, but the fact remains, as miles go up, the propensity for a break down increases.
OP, you are in the position now where you’ve unfortunately put far more into the truck in the last 2 years than it’s worth.
And realizing that, you recognize it’s time to move up to a newer vehicle.
I’m almost 50 years old and do most all my own work and enjoy working on vehicles and I’m not in favor of running an old high mile clunker to save a buck. And my cost to keep one up is only a small fraction of yours going to a shop.
Unfortunately you’re also shopping now when vehicle prices in general are high.
But that said, inflation and power/convenience/amenities/safety standards are increasing the prices as well.
Start searching now for the best deal you can on the newest vehicle you can afford and stop obsessing over the cost. You can’t change that. But if you don’t want to change your lifestyle, get a new vehicle and be done with it.
Even old low mile vehicles will have more “issues” than new. Bought a 2006 with 32k miles last year. Perfect care, condition and maint. Literally as new. So far, it’s had a bad alternator and now steering pump. And I’ve taken care of other known costly issues before they happened. I’m into it maybe $400 in parts. That would be several times that much with shop rates.