Update:
So I took my truck to the scales today, loaded with all six of us and full tank of fuel, WD hitch in the bed:
Front axle: 4,400
Rear axle: 3,250
Total: 7,650
GVWR on door: 9,000
So that leaves 1,350 for tongue weight and the growth of our kids. So I'm at/over max now and will be plenty over max soon assuming my estimated tongue weight turns out close to accurate.
But here's my next question (all weight ratings come from the sticker on the door):
If the GVWR of my truck is 9,000 lbs, why does my GAWR Front (4,750) + GAWR Rear (6,010) on the sticker add up to 10,780? Shouldn't the GVWR then be 10,780 instead of the posted 9,000?
If I go by the posted GAWR Front and Rear ratings instead of the posted GVWR rating, according to the scales today I'm 350 lbs under my front axle max and 2,760 lbs under my rear axle max (even when I add the actual tongue weight that I estimated I'd still be 1,335 lbs under rear axle max!).
So if I go by GVWR I'll be at/over max already.
If I go by GAWR Front & Rear, I'm plenty under max both front & rear. Plenty.
So which do I go by?
Thanks again EVERYONE, I am reading all the posts and all the opinions/advice are VERY helpful