I hope you will come back and let us know what your dealership tells you when you talk to them. I can see that no amount of discussion will change your mind. Like a lot of things, one can find fault in virtually any analysis. That is why actual experience is many times more valid and valuable than analysis.
Many people here have tried to pass on to you their experience. You have some of your own, but seem unwilling to accept others experience because we can't point to a mathematical or computer algorithm that explains what you are seeing/feeling.
Mike