I have a 2005 F250, 6.0 and have no problem using the larger (truck style) spouts. As far as your tank accepting the larger nozzle… just give it a try. I suspect that all of the newer diesel trucks have the larger fill type.
True, fill rate is much faster, however I have never had a problem with "splash."
One thing you can do is just run the flow at a lower rate or when you feel your tank is nearing the full mark release the catch and manually control the nozzle. This is not that much of an issue as the tank will fill so quickly that the small amount of time in manual mode is next to nil.
Robert