I have an 02 Excursion with the V-10 and 4.30 gears. I tow a 9200lb TT with no problems. Combined I'm about 17,500lbs. It'll do 60 with no problem up a mountain! It needs to rev! 4500 all day long!
The 4.10's are OK, but the 4.30's are the best, part of me wishes I would've went with 4.56's.
As far as the 5star tune, best money you can spend at this point. The biggest change is the shift programming. It makes a big difference in towing. No more short shifting and going into O/D too early. Worth every penny!
The diesel guys hate this but it will hang with a stock diesel of similar vintage all day long!