I want to thank everyone who replied to me, my main concern is the safety of my loved ones. I am needing to get to Southern California with my 5th wheel and do it keeping everyone safe including other drivers, if my 2500 was new or in great shape I would not be asking here.
There is no 3/4 or one ton srw that will be safe carrying 4000 lb plus pin weight from trailer that weight with a 4000 lb pin weight. Add a hitch and other stuff your carrying in the bed. All weight in the bed will be on the trucks rear axle and may be closer to 4500-4800 lbs.
Your not buying new but I'll thro some numbers older model #s at you that will be your biggest safety numbers. Older 2500 GM had only a 6200 rawr (tires/wheels/rear suspension/rear axle assy). OEM tires/wheels and rear spring pack are the weak point.
Those older 2500/3500 srw had the old AAM corporate 14 bolt rear axle good for around 9xxx lbs. We find truck camper owners with 250/2500 or 350/3500 srw going with 19.5" tires/wheels and some type of upgraded rear suspension.
Older 3500 srw GM had 7000 rawr and good for approx 3300-3500 lbs in the bed.
That 5343 lb payload for a new 3500 srw is a gvwr payload that comes from the trucks front and rear axle.
RV trailer owners have fixed hitch loads so gvwr based payloads cannot be used over the trucks rear axle. Hell even the new one ton srws are limited to their 7000-7250 rawr + approx 3700-3800 lbs on the rear axle.
I've pulled non rv trailers for a living. I wouldn't hook anything other than a one ton DRW with those bigger 9000-10000 lb rawr which are good for 6k-7k lbs in the bed payloads. Of course actual payload numbers will be determined by actual scaled rear axle weights....not the truck mfg website add or a brochure number.