I'm tearing up my hitch...Help!

You will never be happy until you raise the hitch ball AND raise the trailer frame.

W=front tire
X=rear tire
Y=hitch ball
Z=Trailer tire
They aren't equally spaced but kinda close in dimensions.
The distance that W raises (Entering drive, etc) then Y will lower almost the same. Look at the top picture and it should be obvious
what is needed.
You would be fine if the distance between X and Y was half the
present distance.

Had a similar problem. As others have suggested, bought a Harbor Freight folding hitch jack for around $20 (use the 20% off coupon) unbolted the old jack and installed the new one - about 10 mins. See:http://www.harborfreight.com/automotive-motorcycle/trailer-jacks.html

To really solve your problem once an for all:
1. Get rid of hitch adapter.
2. Install equalizer.
3. Raise trailer frame by either putting springs on top of axle or if axle is already there add spacer blocks/extra leaf to springs.

You have a low trailer and a long overhang on the motorhome. I could see a trailer with the axle closer to the back if the load is light. Then you could raise the front of the trailer.
Raising the trailer on the axle seems like the best bet. How to do it depends on the type of the suspension on the trailer. With leaf springs, you can put the axle below the spring, as others have suggested. If the springs have them, you can also install longer shackles, the plates that the back of the springs mount to. This drops the back of the spring farther away from the trailer. Adding 3 inches to the shackle raises the trailer 1 and a half inches.
If the suspension is rubber torsion spring, you might be able to find taller ones, or modify the mount on the frame to raise the trailer.
Check for a local trailer dealer, or a spring shop.

hmknightnc wrote:
Get rid of the adapter and use a normal drop hitch, looks like 4 or 6 inches drp
Replace the trailer jack with a swing up type jack

This is easiest- as said before, getting that connection point closer to the RV will improve the angle and reduce scraping. And a side swing (or removable) tongue jack will solve the rest of the problem.

It seems you have 2 issues. 1 with the trailer having such a low stance, yes you will need to flip the axel to get about 3 inches more in ride height. 2 you need airbags in the rear to help keep the rv level, a wd hitch will not really help as the a frame I think is to short and again the height is too low for it to really do any good. is there a slot for the draw bar up one level? Have you tried that or if not aas suggested above a 2" drop would probably help instead of what appears to be a 4 inch.

Get rid of the adapter and use a normal drop hitch, looks like 4 or 6 inches drp
Replace the trailer jack with a swing up type jack

Turn only the stinger with the ball on it over and then flip the ball over.

Swap the springs is the only thing that will help. You can get rid of the adapter but I hit my rear end roll wheels on my 24 FT all the time. The hitch is further out so it will hit more often. It is the design of the long overhang. I do not hit with my 42 FT Foretravel.

trailer is overloaded