1. These gages are notoriously WRONG, when flow stops completely, the tank is empty, Black or grey, (unless you have a serious blockage.)
2. It depends on tank outlet location, my outlet is at the rear corner of the tanks, so if you are setting nose down, you are probably not getting a complete dump.
Do you have a leak, in a faucet, kitchen, bathroom sink, shower? other than that, I have no idea how you have a full grey tank in 12 hours, UNLESS your DW is dumping water and not telling you, is she taking LONG showers.
I've never heard of tanks filling so quickly, we can usually go 5-7 days, but then we use a lot of paper products, so we generally do dishes once a day.
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