Welcome new member! You are getting a hard time, but don't worry--it is all really simple. You can be your own ATS by just plugging in the shore power cord to either the :
A. Pedestal or stick house
B. Generator, or
C. Inverter
If inverter, turn off or unplug the converter. Put fridge and water heater on gas (not "auto" for the fridge), and forget the air conditioner.
Now all you need to decide is what 120v items you want to run on inverter. You can run the electric toaster and kettle on a 1000w but you need a 2000w to run the microwave (plus lots of battery bank).
You do need your generator and a portable charger or converter switched on to recharge the batteries during "generator hours" or after "quiet time" later on, next day or whenever you get down to 50% battery.
For more on what size inverter to get or whether you need two, see:
http://www.rv.net/forum/index.cfm/fuseaction/thread/tid/28673682.cfm