Advice from one who has been through some of what you're going through:
1. Don't be discouraged. What you're experiencing is part of the normal learning curve in RV-ing.
2. The truth is somewhere between what the salesmen at a dealership tell you (you can tow this!!) and what the weight police here on this forum tend to tell you (you need a 3/4 ton pickup to tow anything more than a popup).
3. The key capacity figure that you need to pay most attention to is going to be the "payload" capacity. That's the amount of weight your vehicle can handle - counting passengers, gear, and trailer tongue weight. That figure is going to stop you before the "towing capacity" of your minivan.
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