I have a 2021 F150, and YES getting anything other than a factory brake controller is a pain. Also yes, it is bordering on silly that with all the trailer equipment and options the truck has... it doesn't just come with a factory brake controller.
I ended up buying a Curt wireless brake controller that you plug in between the trailer plug and truck. Worked great this summer.
https://www.napaonline.com/accessories/curt-echo-mobile-trailer-brake-controller/27a7ac21?cid=paidsearch_shopping_dcoe_google&utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organicshopping&campaign=GSC-Towing&campaign_id=8911645606&adgroup_id=121248264881&adtype=pla&gclid=Cj0KCQjw--2aBhD5ARIsALiRlwAURhUFOWQqpFBBJqN-pyC8muDqmx4OkVHPI1lHhFYx5diYuuyDno0aAtheEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds&and also YES, the 2.7 twin turbo and 10 speed transmission pull fantastic. Feels much smoother, and more powerful, than my previous 2008 F250 with the 5.4.
Fuel mileage is amazing - I can almost hit 30mpg on the highway not towing. Towing it drops way down to 11mpg, but that is 1mpg better than the 2008 F250's 10mpg. Towing a trailer around town my F150 gets around 16mpg, my 2008 F250 got around 9mpg.
Before I bought this truck with this engine I just didn't know how good V6 engines have gotten.
The "alarms" on the truck are ridiculous. The "cross traffic alert disabled" alarm bings everytime I hook up a trailer (along with a couple other warning alarms)... and I don't even know what that is, lol!
Ford needs to have a "work mode" for the truck that disables most of the alarms and warnings when towing and working with the truck.