The backup switch should be on the transmission itself. Get underneath and look for a round switch with at least two wires coming out of it. Pull the plug off and check for it to have 12 volts at one of the wires. If you have voltage use a jumper wire to the other wire and see if the lights come on. Hint, might have to have the ignition switch ON to test.
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2004 Southwind 32VS 8.1 Workhorse chassis
2002 CRV Toad
U. S. Gear Unified brake system
Retired Fire Captain, SFD