Thanks for all the replies!
I agree on the electric tongue jack, but since we can both still operate it, it is a luxury.
My lady has more RV experience than I do, though I probably have more general towing experience. It's wonderful to have a partner that can back a trailer at least as well as I can.
For her, weight distribution is a new thing. She has a new-to-her tow rig and and the combo with her trailer is right on the edge for weight distribution (I have another thread on that).
But the separate question on her hooking up and disconnecting the bars was this separate topic. Sending her a link to this thread so she can read it for herself.
I did especially like the insight on the head possibly being harder than the bars. This was also something I was looking at with the Blue Ox. It looks like the heaviest of the products I'm looking at. I'll note that in my hitch selection thread, along with some other details.
She is going to do a short test tow this afternoon to a nearby flat lot; we will get some measurements. No WD, a couple miles no faster than 35. The TT is just barely above dry weight at the moment.
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Was (update coming soon):
TV: '01 Yukon XL 3/4 Ton 4WD 8.1L 3.73 prodigy
TT: Still renting
Last Rental: Thor 27' Front Kitchen w/Super Slide