I'm leaning more towards an electrical rather than mechanical problem since it runs fine with no weight on it. I know what gear failure sounds like. Been there. Replaced that. I know about bent legs too. They run fine then bind, load or no load.
Maybe get a new motor then tinker with the old. If fixable I'll then have a spare that will probably never be needed.
Since 2009 the legs have been used litteraly hundreds of times so wear inside the motor should not be surprising I guess.
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