SGordon,
Until you get it sorted out, get in the habit of pulling the negative cable of both the chassis and house batteries when you shut down. It will be a pain I know, but it is easier that dealing with dead batteries all the time.
Now, as soon as you can, get wire, two alligator clips and a small 12V bulb. Solder the wires on the bulb and the clips as well. Then put it between the disconnected battery cable and the battery. If/when it lights, you have a problem (I think you know that), so, keep pulling fused and disconnecting things until the light goes out.
You bought this coach used. There is a real good chance that someone that doesn't know better hooked things directly to the one or the other of the batteries. This happens all the time.
Matt
Matt & Mary Colie
A sailor, his bride and their black dogs (one dear dog is waiting for us at the bridge) going to see some dry places that have Geocaches in a coach made the year we married.