My prayers are with your wife. I'm very familiar with the area, so let me share the following with you. About a year ago I found out that I would require MAJOR surgery at Loma Linda University. We checked out both the Reche Canyon RV park & San Bernardino RV park. Neither park is a 10/10/10, which is most definitely what we look for. (Knowing the traffic in the area, you do want to be as close as possible.) I'd have to agree that crime in San Bernardino is a problem, but my impression was that the park was as safe as many very nice parks we've stayed at. The road thru Reche Canyon does get busy during commuting hours, but that's So Cal. And, with all due respect to whoever suggested it, Big Bear is simply out of the question. We did see a couple of RV's parked near the hospital. We were told RV parking is available, so contact the hospital. For a short recovery time they should suffice. Might add, that my surgerical recovery time (I was projected to be hospitalized for 10 days after a 14hr. surgery) was long enough that we elected to rent an apartment and store the RV.
I do want to assure you that your wife will be in very good hands at this institution. Parking at the hospital is insane, so take advantage of the shuttle system coming from across the street for postsurgical visitations. (My wife often found that even the available valet service was full!). And food is horrible. It's all vegan, which isn't an issue to me, but it just tasted lousy. Having said that, that applies to what is referred to as the mothership - the main facility. If you are lucky enough to be using the off-site surgical center, parking is abundant, food is delicious (great scrambled eggs!) and private rooms.
This will all be behind you before you know it.
